50 WAYS

The main reason that people stay in abusive relationships is that they don’t believe that they can get out.  That is a lie.  You can get out.  I got to the point that I really didn’t care if I had to sleep under a bridge, I was not staying.  I read that sometimes we wait until everything is perfect to leave.  If we do that, we will never leave.  We want to wait until we have the job, the house, the car and the friend.  It doesn’t work that way because the abusive nature of the relationship that we’re in prevents us from having those things.  We usually have to walk, run, hitchhike or flee in the middle of the night to nothingness and then our world begins to take shape.

 

The “Great Prophet”, Paul Simon, published a song, “Fifty Ways To Leave Your Lover” that honestly sums it up:

The problem is all inside your head, she said to me

The answer is easy if you take it logically

I’d like to help you in your struggles to be free

There must be fifty ways to leave your lover

Just slip out the back, Jack, make a new plan Stan

Don’t need to be coy, Roy, just listen to me

Hop on the bus, Gus, don’t need to discuss much

Just drop off the key, Lee, and get yourself free

Just slip out the back, Jack make a new plan, Stan

Don’t need to be coy, Roy, just listen to me

Hop on the bus, Gus, don’t need to discuss much

Just drop off the key, Lee, and get yourself free.

 

We overthink it.  We come up with all kinds of reasons/excuses to stay miserable and abused and most of them are based on the fear of being uncomfortable.  Let me ask you, are you comfortable now?

 

Get out and RISE! ;-*

4 thoughts on “50 WAYS

  1. You only know your true boundaries once you have pushed the envelope. Sometimes those abusive and controlling types are actually weak little people who fold when meeting resistance.

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